a good relationship?
Difference between Infatuation and Love.
feelings of love and intimacy can be the most wonderful and the
most heartbreaking moments in your life.”
This brief article offers some perspectives on love and sex, and gives
you some guidelines for thinking through your relationship.
the feelings of love and intimacy can be the most wonderful and the most
heartbreaking moments in your life. The longing, the need and the desire
for intimacy are a part of life for everyone. They can be even more so
if you experience yourself as lacking the feeling that you “belong”.
In and of
itself, sexual intercourse does not remove loneliness and the lack of
belonging. Yet, countless people believe it will. These people are
A recent New
Zealand survey, reported in the British Medical Journal indicated that
most women believed they should have waited longer before having sex. On
average women were aged 16 years at first intercourse, 10% were drunk at
the time and nearly one-third who experienced intercourse before 16
years ended up with a sexually transmitted disease. Curiosity about what
it would be like was the most common reason for engaging in sexual
intercourse (Herald Sun 2/1/98).
Being Loved for Yourself
Saying no when everyone seems to be having sex can feel lonely. However,
not all girls experience it that way. Those who choose not to have sex
until in a marriage relationship are increasing in number. CLEO
(November 1997) included an article about these women who remain virgins
for many reasons including self-respect, fear of pregnancy and sexually
transmitted diseases and a belief that sex is something special to be
shared with only one person. These women want a man who will cherish
them for who they are and his preparedness to wait is seen as a
statement of love and commitment.
How to Analyse Your Relationship
Being able to judge whether your feelings are REAL LOVE can be
difficult, especially as a teenager. Questions that you might ask of
your relationship include:
ENRICHMENT - Do
you like the way you act whilst in this relationship? Do you believe
that you have matured in it?
There are many ways to show that you care: making friends and
enjoying life, sharing fun in sport and other activities, sharing
feelings about what you want out of life and listening to the other
person. When you are open and honest with your partner it’s amazing
how many feelings you will both share and how close you can feel.
There are many ways to show
that you care: making friends and enjoying life, sharing fun in sport
and other activities, sharing feelings about what you want out of life
and listening to the other person. When you are open and honest with
your partner it’s amazing how many feelings you will both share and how
close you can feel.
These are only general
suggestions. You should always seek outside help if you are unsure what
to do. If you need to talk to someone right now you can call
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Updated May 2005